August 2023, by Viktoria Kshevinskaya
Do Not Withdraw Your Love From Me
I was guided to rise a contraception question on social medial. This is a very triggering topic and many have different opinions. I will share mine, but I started with a question:
What is your way of contraception?
The options to choose from were: withdrawal / birth control / condoms / none of the above
My partner ticked on withdrawal and then I knew why I chose that question.
When I was writing this article, I was visiting family and we were practicing long distance relationship, I must admit, it was not easy, as lots of insecurities were brought to the surface, but that one was big. And I want to speak about it, because it is not just about us, it is about the distortion in the collective mind, and we need to learn how to educate ourselves on this topic.
I was put on birth control pills at the age of 20 due to the heavy periods pain. For 5 years.
For 5 years I was chemicalizing my body, allowing the toxic pharma to do the work on killing my libido and numbing my feelings.
I am not gonna go on the birth control harm in this text, on how it influences hormones and why it was created to "sterilize us" on the bigger picture, with all the side effects.
Today I just want to mention, that it was the time I first time in my life could relax in trusting my partner.
At that moment I was in long term loving relationship which lasted 5 years, we were exploring a lot, and everything was amazing except for the fact that before the birth control my eyes would burst into tears every time after the withdrawal.
For some reason in the culture where I lived, withdrawal was/is a thing. Most couples use it to prevent unwanted pregnancy and many feel it is ok / the only possible way. Some use condoms, but in "stable" relationship, condoms are usually not a thing.
Don't you trust me?
The culture around this topic is very messed up.
And I want to plant new seeds into the our consciousness, that things can be done differently and where the root cause of lots of other problems are.
There are multiple layers to this topic.
First of all, why are we so scared to have children?
This is a massive root chakra block, many of us are on a survival level having fears control our actions.
Children are the beauty of our life.
I have one child of 10 years old, my current partner also has the same age child.
I am in my late thirties, he is in his mid forties. We are not too young to have kids.
Are we stable enough? What does it actually mean to be stable enough?
When the child is on the way, nothing can stop it. Whether you practice withdrawal or not.
The child will also "prepare" the conditions his soul needs to experience for the lessons to be learnt. We cannot control it much.
Meaning if you have no house, there will be a place to live, things will be magically aligned for this to happen if it has to happen.
On the other hand, it is not so easy to conceive a child.
Many couples for decades are trying their best just to be disappointed. Why? Because of the lifestyle, chemicals, pollution, hormones, and many more. A baby can be conceived only on particular days of the feminine cycle - the fertile window - and with age the chances are less.
Many women are stuck in the thoughts - I can get pregnant from a kiss (I am exaggerating of course) and do not really get connected with the body to be able to witness this fertile window.
But there is absolutely no need to chemicalize the body. As you can watch on your app when that period of the cycle is to come. You can witness minor shifts in your energy, in your emotions, in your feelings, in how tired you get, in the discharge you get.
Moreover if a man gets understanding of what feminine cycle is about, he becomes a very powerful man.
Not only he can smoothen her triggers, he can hold her, he can ease up her stress, but he also understands her shifts and the beauty of them.
A woman need to explain that to her partner, yet if she is not aware herself - how can she educate him?
Divine Energy Embodiment starts with synchronization with the feminine cycle. When women connect to the bleed, love their journey, they become very empowered by feeling gratitude for their experiences.
But coming back to withdrawal.
In this world with relationships distortions, the anxious/avoidant dynamics was accepted as “good enough” and “better than nothing”. We were agreeing for less just for the sake of being coupled, we have this built in that we definitely need to find the one.
So on a deeper subconscious level every time he withdraws during lovemaking, she feels he pulls out not only his dagger, but his energy, his love, his support. He does not choose her fully. He is not ready for whatever is to come.
How does she feel? She feels left behind. She feels he was very focused on his pleasure and just dropped her there.
He might be talking about risk and not being ready for whatever is to come. But in my opinion withdrawal is much worse than a tension of a condom.
But let’s look at it from the other side - what happens when he actually comes into her. Or even when he is able to touch her cervix, letting her relax and feel God through him.
The codes are being exchanged, the energy fields merge, the toruses merge as one and get amplified. When you are a pure vessel of creation, you get exposed to a very special level of consciousness just through lovemaking. This is a place where a field of pure potentiality opens up. If into that orgasmic frequency you bring intention for the good of all, everything is possible.
But if he just cuts - he cuts the beauty of the moment. She is not able to bless the mutual creation. And everything that was there before is devalued.
Ask your woman how she feels? Women, what do you think? I want to know, if it is only me or if it is the collective. And what we can do about it?
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